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Introverts don’t hate people, they just can't stand shallow socializing

If you’re an extrovert, surrounded by other open-minded extroverts, you would probably assume that introverts hate people. You would perceive their quietness for rudeness, their shyness for arrogance, and their modesty for vanity. But if you know a little something about the introverts’ nature, or you are one yourself, then you would know that they […]

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Introverts don’t hate people, they just can't stand shallow socializing

If you’re an extrovert, surrounded by other open-minded extroverts, you would probably assume that introverts hate people. You would perceive their quietness for rudeness, their shyness for arrogance, and their modesty for vanity. But if you know a little something about the introverts’ nature, or you are one yourself, then you would know that they don’t hate people.

Why introverts simply choose to avoid shallow socializing?

Why introverts simply choose to avoid shallow socializing

In other words, introverts can’t stand pretending to be enjoying a trivial conversation. This doesn’t mean they despise people, or they prefer to be left alone 24/7. It means they would rather engage in deep, meaningful conversations, rather than shallow small talks.

The “I’m too cool to talk to you” persona has nothing to do with the nature of a real introvert. Unfortunately, that’s how most people believe introverts behave all the time. What they don’t see is that this persona actually serves as a coping mechanism. It is much easier to say you don’t like people than to admit you find a simple small talk both terrifying and completely senseless.

So instead of expressing their true feelings about the triviality of social gatherings, when they actually attend one, introverts prefer to talk to the cat or pet the dog. At least the pets won’t put them in awkward situations or pressure them to talk about the weather.

Literally, anything is better than small talk.

However, avoiding awkward chats about how hot it gets this time of the year doesn’t mean hating people. It means preferring to occupy your mind with much more relevant, purposeful things.

Sadly, many people fail to understand this. They wrongfully presume introverts cannot stand being around others. But no one can blame them. The truth is, only a real introvert can see through this coping mechanism. And that’s exactly the reason why introverts spend countless nights lying awake in bed, trying to figure out how to socialize without having to get past the border of small talk.

But how could you talk to someone about your future goals, your wildest dreams, and your biggest fears, if you don’t start with a simple small talk?

To understand better why introverts are like that, you need to try thinking like one. Imagine having to do something that you know is going to be beneficial for you in the long run, but isn’t quite pleasing at the moment. That’s how introverts see socializing. They know it’s good for them, as it would help them meet other people and expand their tiny inner circle, but they simply can’t see themselves surviving through a meaningless conversation about sports or celebrity gossip.

Would you rather talk about the news with people you just met, instead of chilling at home binge-watching your favorite Netflix show? Me neither. It’s simple as that.

However, sometimes it takes a little bravery and a little “Okay, what the hell” to balance things out.

sometimes it takes a little bravery and a little "Okay, what the hell" to balance things out

In order to surround yourself with people whom you can talk to about whatever it is that baffles your mind, you need to make the first step.

In this case, the first step is getting out of your comfort zone. It’s putting jeans instead of an onesie and getting out of the house for a change. And if going out is not an option due to the current circumstances, it’s answering to that video call you’ve been pretending you never received. A simple Friday night chill with a few of your most favorite people through a video chat, while you’re still curled up in bed, wouldn’t harm.

Are you still having doubts about socializing?

Well, think about the situations that brought your closest friends into your life. Would they be by your side now, if you chose to stay home instead of getting out of your shell and making an effort to get to know them? If you take your time to reflect on that thought, you would surely realize that some people are worth the mini anxiety attack you feel when it gets to having a small talk with a stranger. While establishing a strong connection with someone is rare, it’s definitely worth the shot.

Surely, meeting someone with the same level of sensitivity and compassion as you doesn’t happen every day. Not every conversation has to be life-changing. Not every person you meet is there to stay. And that’s perfectly fine. But you need to understand that one awkward, short, a little uncomfortable social event shouldn’t stop you from getting to know others. No matter how hard it may seem, you are stronger than that. Some people are worth the uneasiness of socializing. You just have to get out of your shell and find them.

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This is why introverts hate small talk https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=why-introverts-hate-small-talk/ Fri, 21 Feb 2020 06:54:44 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=61417 The post This is why introverts hate small talk appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

This is why introverts hate small talk

“There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.” – Susan Cain Whether you refer to it as banter or chit-chat, small talk is a big issue for introverts. It makes us feel uncomfortable. It is a big reason why we are hesitant to meet new people. It is one of the […]

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This is why introverts hate small talk

“There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.” – Susan Cain

Whether you refer to it as banter or chit-chat, small talk is a big issue for introverts.

It makes us feel uncomfortable. It is a big reason why we are hesitant to meet new people. It is one of the must-do social interactions that we don’t like doing.

Small talk is the introvert’s poison.

Our dislike for small talk sometimes makes people think we are socially inept, snobby or just weird. They may think that we are turning our heads away at an important social custom. They believe that we don’t like engaging in small talk because we dislike people. But the truth lies on the opposite side.

Introverts understand that small talk creates an uncomfortable barrier between people. Laurie Helgoe, writer of Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength, explores this in more detail:

“Let’s clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people. We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.”

Sadly, small talk has been classified as socially necessary by the world we live in. Wikipedia has even described it as a “social lubricant”, which makes it sound like good times. But we all know that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Small talk is supposed to be a relaxing and fun experience, and yet it fleets from meaning and depth. Personal topics are considered off-limits. In a similar manner, any show of emotion besides neutral or happy is highly frowned upon. As a consequence, authenticity goes spiraling down the drain.

In reality, small talk only makes two people have a whole conversation without actually getting to know each other.

Instead of being a comfortable experience, the conversation is uninteresting and flat. It’s a predictable boring game of words.

Sometimes small talk could be a segway into a deeper conversation. It can, in addition, help us meet new people and make new friends if we make a good impression.

For us introverts, it is one of those painful obstacles we must overcome in order to get to the sweet spot. We take part in it hoping that we will get to know a person who hates this type of formality with the same intensity as we do.

We hope to mee that person who, like us, asks unscripted questions and laughs at all the things they shouldn’t laugh at. We stick to the wish that our path will cross with someone who is as authentic and unapologetic as we are. We are always on the lookout for people who crave meaning and depth.

We dream of going through the barrier of superficiality where true love would wait for us.

We understand that we will have to go through some small talk to find what we are looking for.

However, do not expect us to enjoy it.

What are your thoughts on small talk? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve enjoyed the read.

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6 simple ways to intensify your relationship and become closer to your partner https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=ways-to-intensify-your-relationship-become-closer-to-your-partner/ Wed, 27 Nov 2019 08:16:44 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=57322 The post 6 simple ways to intensify your relationship and become closer to your partner appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

6 simple ways to intensify your relationship and become closer to your partner

Relationships are adventurous and surprising. They naturally change as time goes on. When it comes to long-term relationships, they can get pretty rough sometimes. We all make mistakes and learn from them. What we need to know is how to avoid creating further unwanted troubles. That’s why we have to put effort into strengthening our […]

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6 simple ways to intensify your relationship and become closer to your partner

Relationships are adventurous and surprising.

They naturally change as time goes on. When it comes to long-term relationships, they can get pretty rough sometimes.

We all make mistakes and learn from them. What we need to know is how to avoid creating further unwanted troubles. That’s why we have to put effort into strengthening our relationships and fighting for our love. Yes, it takes a lot of time and nerves, but all the good things do.

There are some things you should definitely do with your loved one if you want to enhance the love you have for one another. So, if you want to keep your relationship solid and healthy, keep reading!

Here are 6 simple things you can do to strengthen your relationship and become closer to your partner.

1. Spend more quality time together.

Binge-watching your favorite series together is not always classified as ‘quality time’. Put your phones down, turn your smart TV off, and tell Alexa, Cortana, or Siri to get some rest. If you want to intensify your relationship, you need to learn how to enjoy each other’s company without being dependent on any digital devices. The person next to you should be the love of your life, not just some presence in the room while you’re chewing on popcorn watching a mediocre reality show.

Think about all of the time you may have lost being in the same room side by side, but not connecting with each other. In these moments, we should truly appreciate our partners for who they are and acknowledge their valuable contribution to our lives. Instead of spending your time staring at a screen, try gazing into each other’s eyes and talking about your wildest dreams. You will be surprised how close this would make you feel.

2. Show gratitude at the end of the day.

Your significant other is the one who absorbs all of your negativity and calms you down whenever you’re frustrated. They are tho one person with whom you are able to express all of your raw emotions. However, you shouldn’t forget to show your appreciation as well.

At the end of each day, spend a few minutes sharing how grateful you are for being in each others’ lives. This will remind you why you got together in the first place, and why you should never stop fighting for your love. Plus, you will end every day with a positive tone, and you will go to bed without holding any grudges.

3. Be part of something new together.

Start a new adventure together. Find a language both of you want to learn, or an art class you’ll both enjoy. Attend a cooking course, or try an online one at home. Whatever you choose, make sure it’s something you both want.

This mutuality will help you establish deeper connections with one another. You’ll be able to see each other in a different environment, which will show a whole new side of the two of you. What’s more, you’ll see how well you work as a team. This will further prepare and help you with solving problems in your daily life.

4. Do your hobbies individually.

Doing things together is great! However, you also need some time away. For your relationship to be strong and purposeful, you also need to spend some time on your own, doing the things you personally love.

Undoubtedly, there are things you love that your partner doesn’t enjoy as much. And that’s perfectly fine. You don’t have to spend 100% of your time together. In fact, when both of you are doing things you like separately, you are improving the levels of your individual happiness and satisfaction. This way, both of you are preventing your relationship from further unnecessary fights and resentments.

5. Learn to openly discuss your problems.

It may not come as new information for you, but proper communication is essential for a healthy relationship. Many of your arguments can be easily resolved if you learn to listen to your partner and effectively express your point of view.

Whenever you feel something is off between you and your significant other, you should feel free to share this feeling with them. Together you should be able to talk through the issues you’re having and figure out ways to fix them. Sometimes the issue itself is your different perspective. If you practice communicating openly, you will see that most of your problems have pretty simple solutions.

6. Set goals together.

Often at the beginning of a relationship, it’s easy to spot the mutual goals you’re having. But then some time passes, and it becomes unclear whether you still want the same things in life. If you want to establish a strong and steady relationship, you need to set some mutual goals.

When you have something both of you aspire to achieve together, you make your relationship more wholesome and purposeful.

This makes you work as a team and brings you closer to one another. Here communication is also important. Talk about how you imagine the future, and where do you see yourself in a few years. Knowing each other’s dreams and sharing mutual goals will absolutely strengthen your relationship.

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7 must-know reasons why trust in a relationship is more important than love https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=must-know-reasons-trust-in-relationship-more-important-than-love/ Wed, 27 Nov 2019 08:06:23 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=57337 The post 7 must-know reasons why trust in a relationship is more important than love appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

7 must-know reasons why trust in a relationship is more important than love

He who does not trust enough, will not be trusted.  – Lao Tzu Most people believe that pure and honest love is the most important ingredient in any relationship. One can argue, however, that trust is the most essential component of a successful relationship. In its absence, you can end up being constantly hurt and […]

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7 must-know reasons why trust in a relationship is more important than love

He who does not trust enough, will not be trusted.  – Lao Tzu

Most people believe that pure and honest love is the most important ingredient in any relationship.

One can argue, however, that trust is the most essential component of a successful relationship.

In its absence, you can end up being constantly hurt and worried. If you don’t have unquestioned trust in your other half, you end up wasting too much precious time worrying about where they are, who with, and what they are doing and eventually end up feeling sickly paranoid.

And surely, this is not the kind of relationship you signed up for.

Here are 7 reasons why trust always trumps love in any relationship:

1. Trust sets it all in motion

If you want true love, you really need to put all you’ve got in it. It is more of a binary. You are either with or against that person. You are in love with him or her, or you are not.

The binary approach is similar to the example of a criminal defense lawyer. The lawyer is brought in to be there for the client, regardless of feelings. It is their choice to support the client, as soon as the contact has been made and it is decided that the lawyer will represent the client.

In the same manner, trust is a decision. Love may inspire you to keep on moving the relationship forward, but trust is a decision. If you want to take care of someone, you need to start by giving them your trust.

You need to let go of any thoughts you may have in the back of your head and believe that they will not intentionally hurt you and will be there for you the same way you are there for them.

2. You become a better person

When you trust your significant other, you let go of all uncertainties and insecurities about spending time apart. You become more willing to give your partner the space they need. And as a consequence, you can find more time for yourself without having to worry about your relationship. This lets both of you focus on self-development and turn into better human beings and partners.

3. Trust defines peace in the relationship

Often, the willingness to search for trust also demonstrates a willingness to seek peace.

When there are differing opinions or even disputes in a relationship, trust guides you both toward that peaceful resolution. In this manner, you are at peace with yourself as well as with your partner, and in all certainty, he or she feels the same.

4. Trust helps you control your emotions

We are all emotional creatures, and in most circumstances, we tend to emphasize the means rather than the result. We like to engage in relationships that have meaning and true value.

But how do we decide at the start whether a relationship will turn out to be that way? We use trust! We use it to gauge the kind of relationship we have with other people. And we use it to determine exactly how much of our own being we should give to others.

5. Love can cloud your judgments but trust puts a light on them 

We tend to think that love can be our one true savior in times of despair. But the reality is, we are usually too blinded by it to actually make rational judgments. We become too occupied in trying to gain the approval, acceptance, and admiration of our loved one while failing to realize that in fact, love is suppressing our ability to think sanely.

And this is where trust enters the ring. It helps you understand whether the person standing in front of you is truly worth the effort. And it helps you differentiate between the people who you will have a lifelong connection with and those who will at some point leave.

6. Trust gives you the chance to steer the relationship forward

Your options are two; you can either halt your relationship or move it forward. If you have decided to put trust in your partner, you will likely improve yourself and your relationship. If you throw trust by the wayside, you will in effect remove the guide along the path that helps you through these difficult times.

7. Trust boosts your confidence

Trust can actually help you accomplish more in life. When you know that the one you love will be by your side to support and love you even when you fall down, you feel a deep strength to face and overcome even the stormiest times. Your significant other will give you the confidence to develop new skills and take on new challenges to achieve your dreams and goals.

Do you believe that trust is more important than love?

Let us know what you think in the comment section, and please share this article if you enjoyed the read. 

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A strong woman would never leave herself behind for the sake of a relationship https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=strong-woman-never-leave-herself-behind-relationship/ Wed, 27 Nov 2019 07:46:32 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=57343 The post A strong woman would never leave herself behind for the sake of a relationship appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

A strong woman would never leave herself behind for the sake of a relationship

Real love shouldn’t force you to lose yourself. Strong women undoubtedly know that. They never let themselves forget who they are and what do they believe in. Even if they have to experience another hurtful heartbreak, strong women always stay true to themselves. What is love? No, it’s not a famous song that will get […]

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A strong woman would never leave herself behind for the sake of a relationship

Real love shouldn’t force you to lose yourself. Strong women undoubtedly know that.

They never let themselves forget who they are and what do they believe in.

Even if they have to experience another hurtful heartbreak, strong women always stay true to themselves.

What is love? No, it’s not a famous song that will get stuck in your mind for the rest of the day. Love is a rare and precious feeling. It gets your heart race and skip a beat at the same time. Love gives you great power and requires great responsibilities. It’s both astonishing and terrifying. That’s why love is the most amazing thing you could ever feel. But is it worth the risk to give up your true nature?

The truth is, authentic and genuine love that comes from a good place would never force you to break your boundaries and lose your soul. Powerful women know that. They know it because they have already seen the ugly face of love. The one that blocks your senses and makes you blindly give yourself to the wrong person. The one that almost broke their whole world into pieces. That’s what made them so strong and determined.

A strong woman would never abandon herself for the sake of a relationship.

She would never crush her own dreams and beliefs for someone else. She would never lose herself to keep a rotting relationship going. A strong woman would know when the person standing before her, wanting to hold her hand and her heart, is worth it. This woman has already been through so much, that she needs to take only one look at you, to know whether you are genuine or fake. She knows that if someone truly loves her with their whole heart and soul, they would never force her to change her extraordinary nature.

A strong woman has been through many painful heartbreaks. But this made her the amazing person she is now.

She used to believe that a relationship is worth losing yourself for. She used to give her soul to people who never deserved it. Her pure mind was blinded by what she used to call love. For a brief moment, she thought she was nothing without the person she was in love with. She was feeling like she’s just not enough. But still, she tried harder and harder to fix what was broken from the very beginning. She was fixing it with parts of her own heart. And she got hurt. Many times.

Lessons learned. Now she is stronger than ever.

Now she knows how valuable and outstanding she is. She learned how to protect her heart from dirty hands. And she learned it the hard way. That’s why this woman is so strong and stunning. Just like a phoenix, she rose from the ashes of pain and became her most dazzling and brilliant self.

She mastered the art of loving herself first. Every day, and every minute, she grows so remarkably, her younger self would be so proud of her. However, she never stopped looking for pure and authentic love. The difference now is that she is aware of her self-worth, and she knows what she deserves. Her own peace and her own self-growth are way more important than keeping together an insignificant relationship.

What this strong woman needs now is a person who also knows what they want from life.

The same determined, ambitious, and genuine being as her. The one that knows people are not made to be someone’s halves. She’s looking for love that will make her soul fly, and her mind blossom. A love that won’t make her lose herself, but will support and motivate her to achieve her goals.

A strong woman won’t settle for anything less than that.

And you shouldn’t too. You can be that same fierce and powerful woman. You just need to believe in yourself and never let anyone tell you you’re not good enough. Be the strong woman you’ve always admired. Let your younger self be amazed by the person you are today.

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Embarrassed & Broke: How Online Counseling Can Save You https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=embarrassed-broke-how-online-counseling-can-save-you/ Tue, 19 Nov 2019 12:57:25 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=56894 The post Embarrassed & Broke: How Online Counseling Can Save You appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Embarrassed & Broke: How Online Counseling Can Save You

Being broke is pretty bad. Being ashamed or embarrassed of who you are is even worse. And when these two things happen at the same time, it can be very difficult to feel good about yourself or get the most out of your life. Unfortunately, these two things happen together a lot more often than […]

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Embarrassed & Broke: How Online Counseling Can Save You

Being broke is pretty bad. Being ashamed or embarrassed of who you are is even worse. And when these two things happen at the same time, it can be very difficult to feel good about yourself or get the most out of your life.

Unfortunately, these two things happen together a lot more often than you might think – namely when mental health is involved. A lot of people are unwilling to seek mental health treatment for a number of reasons – either because they’re unable to afford it or because they’re embarrassed about the stigma that is so often associated with mental health problems.

In this article, we’re going to talk about one of the most promising alternatives for people who find themselves in this situation: online counseling. Online counseling is a (relatively) new venture that allows people to connect with counselors and therapists from the comfort of their own homes.

Understanding the benefits of this unique form of counseling can be a great help for anyone who is struggling with the stigma against therapy or worried about the financial cost of actually seeking help.

What Is Online Counseling?

Online counseling is a form of counseling that is available over the internet. It has been cited time and again as a legitimate alternative for people who can’t afford therapy.

Various groups provide counseling platforms where registered and qualified therapists can sign up to provide services to clients. Clients also join the platform, where they are usually provided with a list of therapists who can help them with the issues that they have. Sometimes these sites will match you with a therapist by having you fill out a short questionnaire based on your experience.

The majority of online counseling is done through the use of video calling, but it’s also possible to connect with a therapist in other ways. Some platforms offer simply voice calling, and others allow you to communicate with therapists on-the-go via text message and email.

As you can imagine, this provides an impressive level of convenience that one wouldn’t normally find at a regular counselor’s office. It is known to be just as effective as traditional counseling while providing extra opportunities that one can’t get from a traditional therapist.

How Online Counseling Can Help the Broke & Embarrassed

If you’re too broke to afford conventional counseling, or if you’re embarrassed to be seen going to a counselor’s office, then online counseling can probably provide you with the alternatives that you need.

There are quite a few benefits to online counseling:

  • It is often more affordable. Sessions are generally paid for beforehand, and most platforms offer bulk deals meaning that if you arrange for several sessions, they will end up being significantly cheaper.
  • Some of these companies also accept insurance. This is an important factor, because it’s often quite difficult to find a therapist that accepts insurance – especially if you live in a rural area. Therapists are the least likely health professionals to accept insurance, which is a huge barrier for people who are not financially stable.
  • It allows you to connect with therapists through the comfort of your smartphone or computer, meaning that you can actually get therapy from your home. You won’t need to be seen going into any therapist’s offices, and if you choose not to tell anyone, then nobody will even know that you’re seeking therapy.
  • It can help people who are embarrassed about other issues, such as physical disabilities, that may make them uncomfortable to go out in public or meet with a therapist in person.

These are just a few of the key reasons why online counseling has been at the forefront of the mental health battle. There are many, many other reasons for it as well.

Conclusion

Countless people don’t seek therapy because they can’t afford it or because they’re afraid of the potential embarrassment it will bring. Online counseling provides a number of solutions to these problems, and should be strongly considered by anyone who is looking for therapy.

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What are the steps we must take to heal from emotional trauma? https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=what-are-the-steps-we-must-take-to-heal-from-emotional-trauma/ Tue, 19 Nov 2019 08:32:59 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=56597 The post What are the steps we must take to heal from emotional trauma? appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

What are the steps we must take to heal from emotional trauma?

We all experience some kind of emotional trauma at some point in our lives, whether it be light or severe. Emotional traumas can be triggered by events in any aspect of life. Losing someone from your family or a friend, a broken relationship or divorce, the loss of a much-needed job and financial ruin can […]

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What are the steps we must take to heal from emotional trauma?

We all experience some kind of emotional trauma at some point in our lives, whether it be light or severe.

Emotional traumas can be triggered by events in any aspect of life. Losing someone from your family or a friend, a broken relationship or divorce, the loss of a much-needed job and financial ruin can all create emotional havoc and trauma. A specific failure or crushing life event can place a barrier on your ability to ever want to exit your comfort zone again.

Emotional trauma can take a toll on both our psychological and physical health.

It can cause detachment from ourselves and those close to us. It can breed a lot of anxiety, insecurities, and fears that never existed previously. It can cripple us and affect our motivation, self-esteem and our ability to form meaningful connections with others. Emotional trauma can, in addition, lead to us neglect ourselves. We may feel as if we are irreversibly damaged and will never heal. The aches and suffering feel as if they last forever, but like most events in life, time can heal all that was broken – we just need to allow it.

This crippling experience can lead us to use drugs or alcohol in order to soften the pain or any feelings emotional trauma brought upon us.

In fact, the addictions of many people are triggered by some kind of trauma. However, substance abuse only creates additional problems, such as worsening our physical, mental and emotional health. Depending on needs, a short or long term rehab is recommended in this case.

We may feel stuck or crippled in the aftermath of a traumatic event and can find it impossible to move on with our lives.

Getting out of this swamp of misery is easier said than done. After going through emotional trauma, many of us may have that person or situation stuck in our heads. We often wonder whether there was something we could have done differently to prevent the eruption of the chaos we are currently in the midst of, while beating ourselves up over things we may or may not have control over.

Learning to let go and the power of acceptance can play a crucial part in healing from emotional trauma.

The first step is to give yourself the opportunity to heal. Something in your head may be telling you that there is something inherently wrong with you. But it is important to remember there is no such thing. This is just the result of a trauma-related response. Only when we allow ourselves to accept a certain person, place, situation or thing as it is, can we get on the path to recovery.

In our darkest moments, it is easy to cut ourselves off from those who care about us and self-punishingly suffer in isolation.

It is paramount, however, to do the opposite – surround yourself with friends and family for guidance and support. Also, do not hesitate to seek professional help. A trained therapist can work wonders for your healing process.

Practicing meditation can be of help as well.

It can teach you how to live in the present, rather than dwelling on past experiences or worrying too much about what the future will bring. Meditation can help your worrying mind by calming it and relieve you of stress and anxiety. It can help you become more self-aware and allow you to see your emotions from a different perspective, without judgment.

Physical exercise can also help you calm your mind immensely and help you recover faster.

It can power up your confidence, and it releases dopamine and serotonin – neurotransmitters that help you combat stress and improve your mood.

For more guidance on how to deal with emotional trauma see the video below.

We hope this article will help you in the process of recovery from emotional trauma. If you have any thoughts or suggestions you would like to share with us, don’t hesitate to leave a comment, and please share this post if you enjoyed the read.

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To every woman who gave too much of herself to the wrong person https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=to-every-woman-who-gave-too-much-to-wrong-person/ Tue, 29 Oct 2019 08:26:24 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=54984 The post To every woman who gave too much of herself to the wrong person appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

To every woman who gave too much of herself to the wrong person

You care too deeply for the people around you. You are always willing to give as much as you can to your relationships. That is truly admirable. But don’t you give too much of yourself? Some people are so selfless they get to the point where they compromise even with their personal mental and physical […]

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To every woman who gave too much of herself to the wrong person

You care too deeply for the people around you. You are always willing to give as much as you can to your relationships. That is truly admirable.

But don’t you give too much of yourself?

Some people are so selfless they get to the point where they compromise even with their personal mental and physical health. Unfortunately, it’s not always worth it.

If you are one of those people, then you are a remarkable human being. You always see the good in people, and you believe that everyone has that bright spark of kindness in them. You notice all the little beautiful details nobody else sees. This nature of yours is what makes you unique.

There is always a place for the outsiders in your heart.

The ones who don’t fit in the society because they’re different or unwanted. Your tenderness makes you want to help them and make them feel loved. You are often trying to figure out ways to fix their broken pieces. However, not everyone appreciates your highly sensitive soul. Often people use your kindness against you. Instead of accepting your help, they try to take advantage of you. Those people are going to drain your energy out until you have nothing left to give them.

What you need to know is that your goodness is in no way a weakness.

You deserve to receive love as deep and genuine as the one you are willing to give. Sadly, there are too many fake and disloyal people in this world. However, your pure heart wouldn’t allow you to focus on their bad features. A lot of them will leave you feeling mentally exhausted and disappointed before you meet the one who will change all that.

In your life, you’re going to pass through some unhealthy relationships with people that will constantly play mind games with you. They are going to use every opportunity they have to manipulate you. They will make you do things that are in their favor, without caring about your well-being at all.

It’s going to be hard to see the good in them, even though you would try your best.

And yet, you would never stop giving your heart and soul for them. On the other hand, they would never let you be anything but your best for them. Isn’t that ironic? Even though they would demand so much of you, your caring nature won’t let you hesitate to do whatever it takes to make them happy.

At first, those indecent individuals will fool you with sweet lines and beautiful stories, just to keep you on their hook. This is their way to slowly start draining every single drop of your vulnerable soul. As they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. In this case, the “good intentions” are the sweet lies they tell you to make you feel good until they stab you in the back.

This is not what love is, and you know it.

They only love the way you treat them and let them play with your head. They are not interested in your personality, they only want the attention you give them. This makes them feel powerful in some freaky sadistic way. Don’t expect such a self-centered person to want a genuine commitment with you.

You need to be truly loved. Not only for your selfless character but for all the other amazing things you are. You are not only a caregiver, you also need to be taken care of. These are not the people you want to be involved with. They will never give you the time and attention you need.  You will never feel safe in their arms, and you will always be the person who has to take care of everything. This is nowhere near to a healthy relationship.

However, you are strong enough to never lose hope.

You know that one day you will meet the loving and trustworthy person you’ve always been looking for. The one who will make you forget all the disappointment and pain the others made you feel.

Eventually, you will be loved the way you deserve. Your genuine selfless nature is what makes you special. Just remember to always keep your spark. Never let yourself lose that.

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Drugs May Hurt Your Relationship https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=drugs-may-hurt-your-relationship/ Wed, 09 Oct 2019 09:42:40 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=54914 The post Drugs May Hurt Your Relationship appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Drugs May Hurt Your Relationship

We often discuss the harmful physical and psychological effects of drug abuse and alcohol addiction, but we often forget that it also has some strong impact on the person’s social health. It not only hurts physical and psychological but also social relationships. It becomes hard for a person to maintain good and healthy relations with […]

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Drugs May Hurt Your Relationship

We often discuss the harmful physical and psychological effects of drug abuse and alcohol addiction, but we often forget that it also has some strong impact on the person’s social health. It not only hurts physical and psychological but also social relationships. It becomes hard for a person to maintain good and healthy relations with their closed ones and the fact becomes obvious if you ever visit and interview people at Turning Point Rehab Center. You will find out that most of the people getting treatment there are the people who damaged their relationships after getting addicted to substance.

Here we’ll discuss some of the habits that develop in an addicted person which may ultimately hurt your relationship.

Damages to Relationship Because of Addiction

For a person addicted to a certain substance, it becomes hard to maintain a healthy relationship. It hurts their ability to understand because they are thinking about nothing else but drugs. Their main objective becomes just one, i.e. how to get substance and how to consume it. Such person’s life circle becomes limited, and he doesn’t want it to be get interrupted by anyone even if it’s his life partner. He can’t give proper time and energy to his family and relation.

Trust Issues

The person who gets addicted to substance always remains in the feeling of guilt and shame, and avoid facing people because he doesn’t want to be get judged as a weak or bad person. In this situation, he often tells a lie about where he is or what he was doing and where did he spend the money. He starts keeping secrets and this may lead to trust issues in the relationship.

The building of the relationship stands strong on three pillars, i.e., respect, honesty, and loyalty. Lying will shatter the central pillar, i.e. honesty and the relationship will be on stake just because of the substance abuse.

Anger and Abuse

When there come the trust issues in any relation, the conversations between the two becomes more like an interview. A person keeps asking the questions and the other keeps justifying them. This situation irritates more to a person who is already psychologically weak due to substance addiction. This irritation may lead to anger, violence, and abusive language. Living peacefully seems impossible and living together becomes hard.

There are certain substances which directly affects your mood and make you overly aggressive. The common substances which are known for increasing anger and irritation are alcohol, cocaine, steroids, crystal meth, and Ritalin. So, if a person is taking any such substance, he will become aggressive, irritated, and mad at very tiny matters. And this will directly harm the relationship and the family as well.

If you find these sudden changes in your relationship and you find that your partner is lying to you and the reason is not another affair, then the obvious reason is that your partner is addicted to substance. You need to consult some psychiatrist or some specialist to bring your partner out of this misery.

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Steps To Re-discovering Your True Potential For Success In Life https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=discovering-your-true-potential-for-success-in-life/ Mon, 30 Sep 2019 08:06:47 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=54199 The post Steps To Re-discovering Your True Potential For Success In Life appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Steps To Re-discovering Your True Potential For Success In Life

We all desire more from life, but many at times, what makes the difference and propel you to meeting and exceeding your goals is achieving life-changing breakthroughs. This is never an easy feat as it calls for taking action that will drive you beyond your comfort or regular zone to an extraordinary level. Across the […]

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Steps To Re-discovering Your True Potential For Success In Life

We all desire more from life, but many at times, what makes the difference and propel you to meeting and exceeding your goals is achieving life-changing breakthroughs. This is never an easy feat as it calls for taking action that will drive you beyond your comfort or regular zone to an extraordinary level. Across the globe, there are countless people who strive to achieve this limitless potential, which, despite not being easy to attain can be simplified by taking the right steps. As with all things in life that result in greatness, this is not a process that takes place in a vacuum but one that calls for commitment and partnering with the right persons. Since breakthroughs involve getting out of a current situation, there are sacrifices that must be made for a holistic transformation that will have lasting effects.

The goals that different people seek to achieve are varied as everyone has desires that are continually propelling them into action. For others, it could be the pursuit for their ultimate destiny or fulfillment in life while for an entrepreneur it could be the desire of business mastery. Regardless of the vast difference in what each person wants, time has proven that there are core steps that must be embraced by all these parties. There are lots of aspects that one is bound to learn and go through while seeking a breakthrough in life, but the essential steps to be ready for are;

1. Readiness to face your fears

It is no secret that the core reason most people are held back from getting what they desire is because of the fears that they have consciously or subconsciously. The truth is that greatness can never be achieved by a timid mind, and the willingness to face these fears is the first step to mastering how to re-discover the power and potentials within you. To have the right mindset that will aid you to unlock the forces in you, a practical solution is to embrace a personal development plan that is centered on helping you to unleash the power within. A key factor to have in mind is that the future you have always desired is only limited by what you tolerate, and the decision to face your fears will naturally make you bloom.

2. Learn the techniques to mastering mindfulness

Besides fear, the next critical factor that greatly limits abilities is a mind that constantly wanders and fails to focus on the moment. The lack of focus leads to lots of problems given the lack of clarity in whatever one is engaged in or plans to accomplish. It is for this reason why practicing mindfulness is an important step to realizing your full potential as it gives you the advantages of directing the right energy to what must be done. Mastering mindfulness is equally crucial when it comes to putting aside all insecurities that cloud the mind leading to unnecessary distractions throughout the day.

3. Have a change of perspectives

The power of thoughts and emotions cannot be overlooked when looking to be a better version of yourself and having the ability to achieve the more significant things you hope for in life. Any person who continually looks at life from a negative perspective or holds onto the pain points of their lives hardly ever surges forward. While hardships and obstacles are bound to be faced in life, they are not to be resented but are to be viewed as rising pillars for growing as a person. A change of perspectives is a change of the entire story that you will get to live and whether the future will be brighter or darker.

4. Don’t walk through the journey of re-discovery alone

It is incredible what another person could teach you that can completely transform your life in ways you never envisioned before. Right from the moment you decide to rise beyond the ordinary, it is vital to surround yourself with people who are equally positive. A starting point is connecting to an individual or team that is dedicated to helping people achieve their full potentials. By having the pleasures of being under a team or individual that knows what it takes to guide you from your current zone to a better level, you are already halfway through the journey of greatness.

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