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6 Telltale Signs You're Dealing With A Malignant Narcissist

Malignant narcissism is a personality disorder wherein someone lacks empathy and compassion for other people. They put themselves above everyone else and are more than willing to step on others in order to get what they want. This condition is more extreme than regular narcissism as it is a mixture of narcissistic personality disorder and […]

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6 Telltale Signs You're Dealing With A Malignant Narcissist

Malignant narcissism is a personality disorder wherein someone lacks empathy and compassion for other people.

They put themselves above everyone else and are more than willing to step on others in order to get what they want.

This condition is more extreme than regular narcissism as it is a mixture of narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial behavior.

The nature and strength of the symptoms would vary from person to person. Some people can be shy, fearful, and malignant narcissists, while others are extroverted, enjoy bragging, and have an intense sadistic side to them.

Below are 5 common signs of a malignant narcissist:

1. Anti-social behavior

Malignant narcissism can be a subfactor of anti-social personality disorder. It mixes narcissistic and anti-social traits.

Some well-known traits of anti-social personality disorder – which is also referred to as sociopathy – include manipulation and exploitation without feeling guilt.

2. Hypersensitivity to criticism

Criticizing a malignant narcissist can prove to be a bad decision.

Regular narcissists might be able to brush off some jabs at their expense because they consider it a ridiculous joke (don’t forget, they think they’re perfect), but others find even the slightest form of criticism highly offensive and will attack immediately.

Their self-esteem is so fragile it is easily damaged, fighting back is the only means they know of feeling better about themselves.

3. Psychopathy

Sometimes, a malignant narcissist can behave in such a way that mixes regular narcissism with dangerous psychopathy. And this combination can remove the guilt they would normally feel when they manipulate or harm others.

Furthermore, this mixture of narcissism and psychopathy can also produce verbal and physical fights. And when things go this far, most people with this disorder tend to be extremely cold and calculating when it comes to verbal and physical altercations.

4. The need for constant attention

Due to their belief that they are beautiful and brilliant, malignant narcissists are in need of never-ending attention. These kinds of thoughts make them see themselves in positions of extreme advantage, and expect others to respect them highly. The need to be on top might make them plot shortcuts for success, and step on others to get what they want.

5. Living in fear

As malignant narcissists lead a superficial life, they live in constant fear of showing their true face. Moreover, due to their manipulative and sneaky nature, they always suspect others around them of doing the same.

They over-analyze everything other people say. For instance, if you are talking to a friend of yours, the malignant narcissist in your life might assume that you are planning to abandon them and leave with your friend. This sense of constant dread prevents them from getting close to anyone and having a lasting emotional connection.

6. Ill-intentioned plotting against family and friends

Ill-intentioned plotting against someone they see as an enemy is very common. And sure, many people who have been wronged look for ways to take revenge, but malignant narcissists will do the same even when it comes to family and friends.

This kind of behavior happens even if the target has not done anything to deserve such treatment. Some of the more common types of ill-intentioned plotting include deceit and manipulation, which are both carried out with great sophistication.

We hope that this article was of help to you. Let us know your thoughts on the topic in the comments and please share if you’ve found this read of value. 

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7 Defining Signs Of Toxic Parents Many People Fail To Spot https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=7-defining-signs-of-toxic-parents-many-people-fail-to-spot/ Tue, 26 May 2020 07:16:50 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=67413 The post 7 Defining Signs Of Toxic Parents Many People Fail To Spot appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

7 Defining Signs Of Toxic Parents Many People Fail To Spot

Most parents try to do their best to provide a healthy life for their children and ultimately raise them to become good human beings. However, even they can make accidental mistakes that may result in future problems. Sadly, some parents even go beyond the occasional mistake and veer into toxic territory. No matter if a […]

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7 Defining Signs Of Toxic Parents Many People Fail To Spot

Most parents try to do their best to provide a healthy life for their children and ultimately raise them to become good human beings.

However, even they can make accidental mistakes that may result in future problems.

Sadly, some parents even go beyond the occasional mistake and veer into toxic territory. No matter if a parent is being toxic on purpose, there are a number of behaviors that can cause so much emotional and mental damage to a child that it ends up greatly affecting them even after they’ve become adults.

If you have experienced any of the following situations as a kid, it is likely that one or both of your parents had at least some toxic characteristics:

1. Their feelings always come before yours

A good parent will have in mind every member of the family when making decisions. The toxic one, on the other hand, will only think about the way a decision will affect them.

If you can instantly recall numerous instances of a parent disregarding your needs to please themselves, then that is definitely a red flag.

2. They know no boundaries

They don’t care about your personal space and don’t want to accept the fact that you are a grown person who is completely separate from them. They demand to know about your private life, they intrude in your personal space, check your messages or mail, come over unannounced, offer uncalled for advice, and undermine you as a parent.

3. They use guilt as a method of control

A little bit of guilt-tripping is part and parcel of normal parenting, but too much of it is a big issue. A narcissist parent is bent on dominating their children. They want to control what they do and will do everything in their power to make sure they manage to do so.

If a parent has often told you how much they’ve given up for you or gave you a gift only to expect something in return, then chances are he or she is toxic.

4. They are competitive

Not only do they always want to be seen as right, but they also act like they’re in competition with their own child. So, rather than cheer for you and be happy about your accomplishments, they try to diminish them, to best you, or to ignore you.

5. They give you the silent treatment

A healthy family should be able to discuss problems openly. But often, the toxic parent will immaturely ignore their child and simply stop talking to them in order to get what they want.

Have you ever disagreed with your dad only for him to explode in rage and not answer any of your questions? Has your mom locked herself in the room in response to something you said or did? Yes, that is what we mean.

6. They make distasteful “Jokes” about you

All parents sometimes pick on their kids, but when the jokes become part of everyday life, this can be a big issue. You don’t deserve this kind of behavior and to be made fun of for something such as your weight or height. If a parent has a worthwhile concern to address with their kid, they should be honest and avoid criticizing, as opposed to making cruel jokes.

7. They make you responsible for their well-being and happiness

Healthy parenting involves both happy and sad times, but a toxic parent will try to turn their child into their best friend or even parent in order to take care of both their emotional and physical needs.

They often make selfish demands of their kids, forcing them to chose between them and their partners or friends. They make them sacrifice their needs and activities by guilting them into taking care of them. A toxic parent will say that this is quality bonding when what they actually did is take away their child’s freedom to satisfy their own needs.

If your parent has ever made you cancel a trip with your friends to stay with them or made you pick between them and your significant other, then chances are they were or still are toxic.

We hope that this article has helped you. Let us know your thoughts on the subject by joining the conversation in the comments and please share if you’ve found this read worth your time.

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How to tell if it’s True Love… or just Lust https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=how-to-tell-if-its-true-love-or-just-lust/ Fri, 22 May 2020 06:25:56 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=67281 The post How to tell if it’s True Love… or just Lust appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

How to tell if it's True Love... or just Lust

Is it sexual attraction or true love? Where does the difference lie when it all feels so similar at the start of the relationship? You feel appreciated and loved with the amount of attention your partner is giving you and you don’t question his or her true intentions, even though you should. Such relationships are […]

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How to tell if it's True Love... or just Lust

Is it sexual attraction or true love?

Where does the difference lie when it all feels so similar at the start of the relationship?

You feel appreciated and loved with the amount of attention your partner is giving you and you don’t question his or her true intentions, even though you should.

Such relationships are highly risky because you might be falling in love but you cannot figure out if your other half feels the same or just loves what you two have going on in the bedroom.

Below is a list of differences between love and lust that might help you understand what you and your partner truly want from each other:

1. You want to spend all night talking

A couple entangled in pure lust can easily stay up all night having a good time, but it won’t be a meaningful conversation that keeps them awake.

People who love each other, however, are just as interested in each other’s minds as they are in each other’s bodies. They can spend hours on end talking while losing all sense of time. They are never lost for words and even if they don’t agree on everything, they are still fascinated by each other’s minds.

2. Your partner is your escape

In a purely sexual encounter, you cannot always count on that person being there for you, especially when you’re going through a rough period in your life. True love gives you a strong level of comfort and protection when you need someone by your side the most. If you can call on your partner at any time of the day and they are there to hold your hand during the most stressful times of your life, her or she obviously cares for you on a deeper level than just lust.

3. You cannot stop thinking about them

It is certainly true that lust can have such an effect on us too, but if you’re only attracted to your partner in a sexual way you definitely won’t be daydreaming about much else than their physicality.

If you’re in love you won’t be able to get that person off your mind, and you will more likely be daydreaming about the plethora of the mental as well as the physical qualities they possess, and sex will not be the main point of focus.

4. Life with them is an adventure

The best thing about love is that it lifts you up and gives you fulfillment. Life is too short to share it with a toxic person who does not help you grow and fulfill your dreams. Being adventurous does not mean going on extreme, life-threatening journeys; it just means sharing moments with a person that makes you feel complete. So whether that means cuddling up together and watching a movie or going for a swim at the beach – just remember to have fun doing it all.

5. You want to meet each other’s friends and family

If you’re only interested in each other for sexual reasons, you won’t care much about meeting each other’s loved ones. However, love means you want to get to know all there is to know about your partner. And you can surely learn a lot about someone by meeting the people in their social circle. And if your relationship develops on a deeper level, their friends and family will become a big part of your life.

If what you have is true love, you will want to build relationships with each other’s friends and family too. It is a crucial part of taking your relationship to the next level.

6. The thought of losing them is unfathomable

While it may sound like a cliché, the thought of being with the person you truly love should be unimaginable. One of the most wonderful things about love is having the chance to be with someone you can cherish and fight for always. Life can be harsh and unpredictable, but having someone by your side to help you find the right way forward is priceless – and that is the person you should never let go.

We hope that this article helped you recognize the differences between love and lust.

If you’ve enjoyed the read and believe someone of your friends and family may need such guidance, please don’t hesitate to share it with them, and drop us a comment to let us know your thoughts on the subject.

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40 Fascinatingly Curious Foreign Words With No English Equivalent https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=40-fascinatingly-curious-foreign-words-with-no-english-equivalent/ Wed, 20 May 2020 09:06:04 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=67109 The post 40 Fascinatingly Curious Foreign Words With No English Equivalent appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

40 Fascinatingly Curious Foreign Words With No English Equivalent

Undoubtedly, the English language is incredibly rich and versatile. However, having in mind that there are roughly 6,500 spoken languages in the world, we cannot dismiss the fact that there are words with no English equivalent. Sometimes it takes a whole sentence in English to describe a single word in another language. Here are 40 […]

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40 Fascinatingly Curious Foreign Words With No English Equivalent

Undoubtedly, the English language is incredibly rich and versatile. However, having in mind that there are roughly 6,500 spoken languages in the world, we cannot dismiss the fact that there are words with no English equivalent.

Sometimes it takes a whole sentence in English to describe a single word in another language.

Here are 40 dazzling and curious foreign words you may not know about.

1. Backpfeifengesicht (German)

A face badly in need of a fist or a slappable face. You just thought of someone, didn’t you?

2. Bakku-shan (Japanese)

The experience of seeing a woman who appears pretty from behind but not from the front. Something similar to the phrase ‘a full-on Monet’, but in a different aspect.

3. Bilita Mpash (Bantu)

A wonderful dream; exactly the opposite of a nightmare.

4. Boketto (Japanese)

Gazing into the distance without thinking. Just like what teens do when their parents are trying to lecture them.

5. Cafune (Brazilian Portuguese)

Oh, if this isn’t the most romantic word ever! It means ‘tenderly running your fingers through your lover’s hair’.

6. Cavoli Riscaldati (Italian)

Literally it translates ‘reheated cabbage’. However, it represents the result of attempting to revive an unworkable relationship. Does it make sense now?

7. Cotisuelto (Caribbean Spanish)

This word stands for the prevailing fashion trend among American men under the age of 40. It describes someone who wears his shirttail outside of his pants.

8. Eunoia (Greek)

A pure and well-balanced mind. It could also stand for ‘beautiful thinking’.

9. Faamiti (Samoan)

That’s the squeaking sound someone makes by sucking air past the lips in order to gain the attention of a dog or child.

10. Fremdschämen (German); Myötähäpeä (Finnish)

Both these words mean vicarious embarrassment. 

11. Gigil (Filipino)

Do you know that feeling when you see an incredibly adorable puppy and you just want to squish it because it’s so darn sweet? That’s ‘gigil’ –  the urge to pinch or squeeze something that is irresistibly cute.

12. Greng-jai (Thai)

That feeling you get when you don’t want someone to do something for you because it would be a burden for them.

13. Hygge (Danish)

Some moments in our lives are simply brimming with happiness, comfort, love, and warmth. Danish people call these touching moments ‘hygge’.

14. Iktsuarpok (Inuit)

The feeling of anticipation that leads to keep looking outside to see if someone’s coming.

15. Koi No Yokan (Japanese)

Another lovely romantic term. It represents the sense upon first meeting a person that you are going to fall in love with.

16. Komorebi (Japanese)

Sunlight that filters through the leaves of trees.

17. Kummerspeck (German)

The literal translation of this word is ‘grief bacon’, and it stands for the excess weight gained from emotional overeating. Do you find this relatable? 

18. L’esprit de l’escalier (French)

The predicament of thinking of the perfect reply too late. Just like when your siblings roast you, but you come up with the perfect burn when the moment has already passed.

19. Lagom (Swedish)

Not too much, not too little, but just the right amount of something.

20. Litost (Czech)

A state of torment created by the sudden sight of one’s own misery. Basically, regretting your own shameful mistakes.

21. Luftmensch (Yiddish)

This word describes most of us in our 20’s. It means ‘an impractical dreamer with no business sense’.

22. Mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan language of Tierra del Fuego)

That special, or a little awkward look, that two people share when both are wishing that the other would do something that they both want, but neither want to do. How come we don’t have a word for such a common look? If we do, please let us know in the comments.

23. Mencolek (Indonesian)

You know when a friend is just sitting comfortably and you wanna tease them a little, so you tap them lightly on the opposite shoulder from behind to fool them? The Indonesians were bright enough to come up with a word for that.

24. Meraki (Greek)

This is a word that modern Greeks often use to describe doing something with soul, creativity, or love. It’s when you put ‘something of yourself’ into what you’re doing, whatever it may be.

25. Packesel (German)

That’s the person who’s stuck carrying everyone else’s bags on a trip. Literally, a burro.

26. Pålegg (Norwegian)

Whatever you decide to put in a sandwich, Norwegians call a ‘pålegg’. It could be anything – ham, cheese, jam, Nutella, pickles, Doritos, you name it, as long as you’re about to put it in a sandwich.

27. Pana Po’o (Hawaiian)

Scratching your head in order to help yourself remember something you’ve forgotten.

28. Pelinti (Buli, Ghana)

Moving hot food around in your mouth in an attempt to cool it off. It’s accompanied by that ‘hasafashafsas’ sound you make after you bite on a hot piece of pizza. 

29. Schlemiel and schlimazel (Yiddish)

Someone who is chronically unlucky.

30. Seigneur-terraces (French)

If you’ve ever been a waiter or a bartender, you definitely know what this is about. This phrase stands for coffee shop dwellers who sit at tables a long time but spend little money, therefore, little to no tips.

31. Shemomedjamo (Georgian)

Literally it means ‘I accidentally ate the whole thing’. That’s the feeling when you’re really full, but your meal is just so delicious, so you can’t stop eating it.

32. Slampadato (Italian)

This word describes someone addicted to the UV glow of tanning salons.

33. Tartle (Scots)

The nearly onomatopoeic word for that panicky hesitation just before you have to introduce someone whose name you cannot recall.

34. Uffda (Swedish)

This sympathetic word is typically used when someone else is in pain. Pronounced ‘OOF-dah’, it’s like a mix between ‘Ouch for you’ and ‘I’m sorry you hurt yourself!’

35. Vybafnout (Czech)

A word tailor-made for annoying older brothers—it means to jump out and say boo.

36. Weltschmerz (German)

A romanticized and weary sadness that is experienced by the most privileged of the youth. Translates literally to ‘world-grief’, which is quite similar to the term ‘first world problems’.

37. Ya’arburnee (Arabic)

This word has a touching, yet heartbreaking meaning. It stands for the hopeful declaration that you will die before someone you love deeply, because you cannot stand to live without them. Its literal translation is ‘may you bury me’. 

38. Yuputka (Ulwa)

This could mean walking in the woods at night, or the phantom sensation of something crawling on your skin.

39. Zeg (Georgian)

This short Georgian word stands for ‘the day after tomorrow’. Yes, there is an English word for that, ‘overmorrow’, but when was the last time you used it in a sentence?

40. Zhaghzhagh (Persian)

The chattering of teeth from the cold or from rage.

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A True Friend Will Never Abandon You https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=a-true-friend-will-never-abandon-you/ Wed, 20 May 2020 09:03:00 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=67122 The post A True Friend Will Never Abandon You appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

A True Friend Will Never Abandon You

If you immediately had a face and name appear in your head by reading the headline, congratulations – you can consider yourself fortunate. Because this means that you will always have a person by your side who you can count on. Someone who will never abandon you, no matter what. Someone who will be next […]

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A True Friend Will Never Abandon You

If you immediately had a face and name appear in your head by reading the headline, congratulations – you can consider yourself fortunate.

Because this means that you will always have a person by your side who you can count on. Someone who will never abandon you, no matter what. Someone who will be next to you when the skies darken. Someone who will appreciate you for who you are.

Real friends are hard to find, so if you already have one, make sure you cherish what you have. Make sure they know how much you mean to them and never let them go.

The following is a list of 5 defining signs you have yourself a precious true friend:

1. They are there for you through thick and thin

A real friend never leaves you behind when things take a bad turn. They never leave you to deal with your difficulties on your own. You know you can always count on their love and support, and they know you would do the same for them. Because true friends always have each other’s backs.

2. They accept you with all your imperfections

Real friends don’t want to change you. Because they accept all your good and bad sides. They are at peace with your annoying habits, your little outbursts at times, your fears, and your insecurities. They respect your point of view no matter how much it differs from their own. And that is why you always feel at ease when you’re together.

3. They know all there is to know about you

They know your likes and dislikes. They know your future plans, what you stand for, your goals and aspirations. They know your deepest secrets, your failures, and all the embarrassing stories that you wouldn’t share with anyone else.

4. They are happy when you succeed

Fake friends feel jealousy when you accomplish a goal and when they see that you have found happiness, but true friends will celebrate the high points of your life with you. They are happy when you are happy. Furthermore, they will push you to reach new heights, no matter how ludicrous your dreams may seem to other people.

5. They give as much as you do

You don’t have to chase each other begging to spend time together. Just as you do, they always make time for you and never let you feel abandoned.

They don’t ignore your calls and messages, because no matter how busy they are, they always find the time to message, call back and ask how you are and what’s new in your life.

We hope that you found this article of value. Don’t hesitate to let us know your thoughts on true friendship in the comment section and please share if you’ve enjoyed the read. 

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Don’t Lose Hope, There Are Proven Ways To Combat Depression And Improve Your Life https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=dont-lose-hope-there-are-proven-ways-to-combat-depression-and-improve-your-life/ Tue, 19 May 2020 14:52:13 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=67106 The post Don’t Lose Hope, There Are Proven Ways To Combat Depression And Improve Your Life appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Don't Lose Hope, There Are Proven Ways To Combat Depression And Improve Your Life

Sometimes in life we can all feel like things will just never get better and that the crushing feelings of depression will never come to an end.  What is one to do in such situations of hopelessness? If depression starts getting the best of you, the first thing you should do is focus your time […]

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Don't Lose Hope, There Are Proven Ways To Combat Depression And Improve Your Life

Sometimes in life we can all feel like things will just never get better and that the crushing feelings of depression will never come to an end. 

What is one to do in such situations of hopelessness?

If depression starts getting the best of you, the first thing you should do is focus your time and energy on yourself. Taking care of yourself emotionally, physically, creatively, and spiritually, can help transform the negativity into positivity.

Here are some steps you can try to refresh yourself and hopefully start feeling better:

1. Challenge your negative thoughts

Being able to spot when depression is bringing you down is the first step toward betterment. When feeling low, all kinds of negative thoughts can get the best of our minds, so it is key to able to keep them in check.

2. Stick to a schedule

Keeping up a healthy and regular routine is extremely helpful for people suffering from depression. Often, when faced with such an issue, our motivation tends to drop, making us feel unproductive and lowering our self-esteem. Schedule an every-day activity – make sure it is one you really enjoy and find meaningful – and aim for a day containing as much balance as possible.

3. Exercise and eat well

Regular exercise can greatly improve your mood. Pick the exercise of your choice and start doing it for 30 minutes to 1 hour a day, 4-5 days a week. In addition, pay attention to what you eat and drink, as the things you put in your body are also responsible for how you feel. You do not have to become an obsessed vegan to accomplish this, but avoid binge eating, carbs, junk food, energy drinks, soda, and too much sugar.

4. Avoid alcohol and other substances

In addition to eating healthily and doing regular workouts, you should limit the use of alcohol and avoid any mood-altering drugs. Drinking and other substance use may seem like a way to distract, distance, and numb yourself from the aches of depression, but it is not a healthy way to combat the problem; in fact, it will only add to it in the long run.

5. Improve your sleep

Getting the right amount of rest every night is crucial for your mood. People suffering from depression often report sleep disturbances – they either don’t get enough rest or oversleep. Go to bed, wake up on a regular schedule, and try not to do late nights. Having a broken sleep pattern will fuel your depression and make it more difficult for you to be social, exercise properly, and manage your stress levels.

6. Don’t underestimate the importance of humor in your life

Finding ways to keep your mood up by laughing will provide your mind with an emotional break from all the negativity that depression brings.

Whether this means talking to a friend or relative, watching an uplifting show or movie, writing funny stories yourself, it can all be of great help.

We hope that this article was helpful to you. If you’ve enjoyed the read, please share it with your friends and family, and don’t forget to drop us a line in the comment section.

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7 Crucial Lessons We Often Learn Too Late In Life https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=7-crucial-lessons-we-often-learn-too-late-in-life/ Tue, 19 May 2020 08:27:04 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=67041 The post 7 Crucial Lessons We Often Learn Too Late In Life appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

7 Crucial Lessons We Often Learn Too Late In Life

Life lessons contain endless amounts of wisdom because they are most often than not learned the hard way. However, the most difficult part about that process is coming to the realization that sometimes not all opportunities last forever. You come to understand it long after the fact. Let us do the best we can to […]

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7 Crucial Lessons We Often Learn Too Late In Life

Life lessons contain endless amounts of wisdom because they are most often than not learned the hard way.

However, the most difficult part about that process is coming to the realization that sometimes not all opportunities last forever. You come to understand it long after the fact.

Let us do the best we can to learn these things sooner rather than later.

Here are 7 lessons we often learn too late in life:

1. If you wish to “do what you love”, you must work harder than everyone else

Most of us aren’t lucky enough to spend our lives doing what we want.

Instead, people do what they are told to do, or what their family, state, or friends tell them is best for them. But if you want to live a meaningful life by doing what you love you must look at it as a privilege, not an expectation.

So if that is truly what you want and you’re ready to make the sacrifices necessary to get there, get to work as soon as possible!

2. Never hesitate to take action

We often fail to act when necessary due to a lack of confidence or courage. This hesitation keeps us from moving ahead in life and gets us stuck in a state of wondering what might have been only if… Whenever your gut tells you it’s time to act, don’t think twice and do it. No matter the result, you will learn something valuable in the process.

3. Your actions of today will form your future self

The things you busy yourself with each day will define who you will become tomorrow. And when positive actions, no matter how small, are repeated each day, you will be a much stronger, smarter, and more accomplished person in a month, a year, and so on.

4. Take care of your health now, so you won’t regret it later

When we are in our youth we can push our body to incredible limits every day. It’s as if nothing we do can affect us and we feel indestructible. But unfortunately, as we grow older all the alcohol, smoking, drugs, junk food, and so on, will start taking a toll on our health. Begin developing a healthier lifestyle today and check your health at the doctor regularly to avoid disaster in the future.

5. Your achievements will never be as rewarding as the journey

Setting a goal and getting help in accomplishing it is one thing. However, it’s an entirely different thing to sacrifice your own well-being and that of the people around you to achieve that goal.

The reward will never be worth as much as the sacrifice.

If you are not able to enjoy the journey, the goal will lose its meaning.

6. Make each moment count

Before we know it, life is behind us. When you are in your twenties you think you have all the time in the world to accomplish your goals but before you know it you hit your thirties and you lose the time and chances you once had. Make every day of your life count if you wish to have fewer regrets looking back.

7. Never give up on trying

Sometimes even when we’re feeling fully prepared for what is to come, there is always a chance we will fail. A professional runner could be ahead for an entire race and fall down right before the finish line costing him his win. Surely that doesn’t mean that the runner should stop competing; exactly the opposite, he or she would work even harder for next time. And the fruits of the labor will be reaped eventually.

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Why simple living is not just a lifestyle, but a necessity https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=why-simple-living-is-not-just-a-lifestyle-but-a-necessity/ Mon, 18 May 2020 15:11:47 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=67010 The post Why simple living is not just a lifestyle, but a necessity appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Why simple living is not just a lifestyle, but a necessity

The art of living simple, yet purposeful, is probably one of the greatest skills one could master. Although it’s nothing new, it remains accurate to this day, and it will stay with us far beyond the foreseen future. Since the dawn of civilization, philosophers, poets, and rationalists have been implementing the idea of practicing simplicity […]

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Why simple living is not just a lifestyle, but a necessity

The art of living simple, yet purposeful, is probably one of the greatest skills one could master.

Although it’s nothing new, it remains accurate to this day, and it will stay with us far beyond the foreseen future.

Since the dawn of civilization, philosophers, poets, and rationalists have been implementing the idea of practicing simplicity throughout life. While frugal simplicity was more of a necessity than a choice during much of our history, it was also considered a moral virtue.

Nowadays, however, we’re living in a consumer’s society. Most of the people’s top priority is to be financially stable, some even regardless of what they need to do to add a few more zeros to their bank accounts. But none of these people is to blame, as today’s world is constantly pushing all of us in one direction – to buy more stuff.

There is this bizarre common mindset that if you have more possessions, if you only wear designer clothes, or if you travel to luxurious destinations, you will radiate success. And as you radiate success, everyone will look up to you. Sadly, this damages the connection you have with the traditional values you have inherited by your ancestors.

Let’s face it, we have all been thinking this way at some point in our lives.

With the tremendous impact social media currently has on our existence, we have all fallen into this trap. It’s all about the massive house you own, the awesome car your dad bought for you, or the fancy job title you have. For most of our lives, we believe that it doesn’t truly matter whether you have a wonderful personality if you can’t afford to look wealthy in the eyes of others.

There is a term coined by the sociologist and economist Thorstein Veblen in his book ‘The Theory of the Leisure Class’, called ‘conspicuous consumption’.

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This term stands for the act of spending money on luxury goods and services to publicly display your high income. Frankly, the phrase describes people’s behaviorism today, even though it was coined back in 1899.

Presently, while exposing your belongings to others to gain their respect is deemed normal, living simply suggests your lifestyle is quite boring.

But there still might be a light at the end of the tunnel.

Ever since blogging became a trend in the first decade of the 21st century, millennials rediscovered the benefits of simple living. Whether it reflects the nostalgia for the times when technology was only in sci-fi movies, or it was inspired by the belief that living in a simple manner makes you a better person, this particular lifestyle has gained tremendous popularity.

More and more people are imposing minimalism in their lives. This is not only about getting rid of belongings you don’t need, but also about focusing your attention on the things that bring more value to your life.

“That’s been one of my mantras – focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”
– Steve Jobs –

However, millions of people continue working long hours, only to spend their money on lottery tickets, black-Friday-sales, and goods they cannot afford. 

The question that remains is ‘Why?’

Of course, as the philosophy professor at Alfred University in New York, Emrys Westacott states, hypocrisy is one of the obvious answers. We praise the simple lifestyle and consider it a sign of moral integrity. On the contrary, we get admirable degrees and work hard our whole lives, only to become financially stable, or in other words, to get rich.

Moreover, we applaud famous minimalists such as Steve Jobs and Albert Einstein for changing the world while leading simple lives. In the meantime, we admire celebrities who beam extravagance and have gained their fame for nothing but their looks.

Undoubtedly, there’s an intensified inconsistency in the way our minds work. However, today, most of us are blessed with the opportunity to choose their own lifestyle. In the past, simple living was not a choice but a demand. But now, we can actually decide whether we’re going to follow trends or we’re going to focus on the valuable things in life.

Currently, with the ongoing pandemic and the numerous lockdown restrictions around the globe, the art of leading a simple life has become a necessity.

As many of us are working from home, we don’t have a place to show off our brand new clothes. While we ought to wear protective face masks in public for our safety, we don’t spend hundreds on makeup, as no one would see it. And while the restaurants are closed, we more often cook at home and spend our days and nights with our families – the people we don’t really feel the need to impress.

Of course, there are many other examples of how the quarantine has changed our lives. But the point is, many of us have the time to truly understand the power of simple living. It was never about what you have, but what you deem valuable. In 2016, Westacott wrote:

“Millions of people suddenly find themselves in circumstances where frugality once again becomes a necessity, and the value of its associated virtues is rediscovered.”

Four years later, amid a worldwide pandemic, his words cannot be more accurate. And although many people might still not be convinced that living a simple life is a necessity, while we’re somehow forced towards simplicity, we can also acknowledge its significance.

If you don’t feel like letting go of your designer bags or fancy furniture, then don’t, as long as they add genuine value to your existence. Meanwhile, make sure you know what truly matters in life and focus on the things that elevate you, encourage your growth, and of course, bring you joy.

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7 Must-Know Behavioral Signs That He Is Truly In Love With You https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=7-must-know-behavioral-signs-that-he-is-truly-in-love-with-you/ Mon, 18 May 2020 08:25:01 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=66941 The post 7 Must-Know Behavioral Signs That He Is Truly In Love With You appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

7 Must-Know Behavioral Signs That He Is Truly In Love With You

The way a person behaves in a relationship can determine the kind of affection and love they have for their other half. If you have a man by your side who is in love with you, the signs of his love for you should be evident even if he doesn’t tell you how much he […]

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7 Must-Know Behavioral Signs That He Is Truly In Love With You

The way a person behaves in a relationship can determine the kind of affection and love they have for their other half.

If you have a man by your side who is in love with you, the signs of his love for you should be evident even if he doesn’t tell you how much he loves you very often.

Actions speak louder than words for a man who is head over heels in love.

And the way he acts will set him apart from all the self-obsessed jerks out there. So, if you’re still unsure whether your man truly loves you because he isn’t great with words, here are some signs you should look out for to get a piece of mind:

1. He always puts you first

Does your man usually let you pick the restaurant of your liking? Does he offer to run to the shop when you feel like having a treat? There is a term for that and it is called compassionate love. It is linked with extremely strong levels of romantic love. Those little, selfless acts are a definite sign a guy is madly in love and would do anything for you.

2. He’s a good listener

You should never take for granted a man who really pays attention to you. If he is willing to listen to you during your ups and downs, that means he is truly devoted to the relationship. He wants you to be aware that you can talk to him about anything at any time. He wants you to feel secure on the inside and out, no matter the circumstances.

3. He shares intimate things about himself with you

People often mix up intimacy with sex. Intimacy means so much more than a good physical connection. Intimacy is all about showing your vulnerabilities and sharing those details that you wouldn’t normally share with other people. When your significant other shares his deepest secrets, insecurities, and aspirations with you, he is showing you an unmatched level of trust.

4. He really fights for your relationship

You notice that he is doing his best to keep your relationship alive. He does not hesitate to make a strong effort to make you happy. You know that even when you are insufferable (and let’s face it, we all are from time to time), he still stays by your side and makes sure things remain stable. He does not try to avoid challenges because he knows that he has to overcome them in order for you two to make it as a couple.

5. He talks about a common future

If he is asking you about moving in together or having children he is clearly showing a desire to have a life with you. When two people in a relationship talk about such things it shows a certain level of intimacy and bonding. It shows that he is serious about you and wants to know if you feel the same way.

6. He does all he can to be on good terms with your family and friends

He is always trying his best to be on good terms with your loved ones, even if he does not like some of them that much. He understands that the most special people in your life are those he really needs to win over. He knows how important they are to you and is aware of the value of being in harmony with your social circle if he is serious about having a long-lasting and fruitful relationship with you.

7. When you laugh, he laughs

Naturally, men use humor to gain a woman’s interest and attention – the more she laughs, the more interested she is. Furthermore, the more a couple laughs together, the stronger their connection is. If you are both always laughing it out at the same time, it shows that you are truly destined for each other, and are in it for the long run.

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The Awesome Perks Of Leaving A One One-Sided Relationship https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=the-awesome-perks-of-leaving-a-one-one-sided-relationship/ Tue, 12 May 2020 07:33:13 +0000 https://www.jlawjdv.nl/?man=?p=66450 The post The Awesome Perks Of Leaving A One One-Sided Relationship appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

The Awesome Perks Of Leaving A One One-Sided Relationship

Have you ever felt so broken that you questioned the point of your own existence? Well, many of us have and be sure, it hurts a lot. It is painful to not get back what you give. It hurts realizing that the person you’ve invested so much in, was faking it all this time. It […]

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The Awesome Perks Of Leaving A One One-Sided Relationship

Have you ever felt so broken that you questioned the point of your own existence?

Well, many of us have and be sure, it hurts a lot.

It is painful to not get back what you give. It hurts realizing that the person you’ve invested so much in, was faking it all this time. It hurts being the fool.

For love to work its magic, we need to meet each other halfway. But sadly, some of us pour all our hearts into a person who is not willing to share even a small bit of theirs. We end up tolerating mood swings and ignore looking into what’s behind a person’s endless requests for a “break” and “alone time.” And the truth is, often cheating lies behind it.

But when enough is enough, there simply is no other option but to draw the line.

And when that happens, they will shamelessly blame us for everything.

It is always the guiltiest who plays the blame game in the end.

We give them the best years of our lives and our unconditional love. We think that the magic will never come to an end. But it does, and that is when they shatter our world. They make us feel like fools, but little do they know, this experience only makes us stronger.

Letting them go means letting the pain go away and that in itself brings empowerment.

We do what we have to do to escape misery and find our way towards new levels of happiness. And yes, it will hurt a lot, but it’s all worth it in the end.

And for them, it will be worse than it is for us. Because when we are fully healed and are once again able to enjoy life, they will start regretting their mistakes.

It is difficult to find someone who is worth all the struggle and wait, but when the right person comes along they have to be nurtured. 

Just like you care for a plant, you have to care for that one person who will make you feel complete.

And to the one who hurt you do not wish terrible pain and anguish but wish them luck in finding a person who they would be able to love with all their heart – a feeling that you already know the joys of.

You moved on, you learned, you healed, you prospered – you gained the awesome perks of leaving a one-sided relationship.

Be thankful for the harsh lessons that made you stronger and embrace the one who truly deserves you!

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